Monday, September 6, 2010

Finding Love


I recently came across a blog which was very inspiring. It was a blog by a human being who openly spoke about what she was going through and what she has experienced. She was not afraid to admit that she finds soccer players rather dashing, not scared to speak about Hijab and not shy to openly admit that she too wants to find love. The blog clearly shows that regardless of how religious you are, you are made of many facets. Some days you will want to write about your obsession with handsome football stars, some days why you won’t pay alot of money to watch a 3D movie and some days you will want to write about your faith. All these components are what we humans are broken up into.

My favourite of her posts is something she has titled, “Dear Future Husband.” She speaks about how she has searched for her future husband and realised that it may not be very easy. She thought she had met him once, but she was mistaken. While she waits for him to find her, she is changing, both physically and emotionally. I’ve read many articles of sorts, but nothing has touched me as much as this one did. Her honesty and humbleness has left its mark on my heart because I can relate to what she is saying 100%. Not to reiterate what the post states, but I too share her views. I too have searched, only to have been disappointed. I also thought I had found “him”, only to have had a rude awakening. While I wait for him to find me, I am becoming more independent and harder. I fear when he does find me I won’t be able to love him the way I can love him now. How much longer will he take?

Am I obsessed with this topic? Does love and marriage infect my mind 24/7? I know things happen for a reason and I know when something is meant to happen it will happen. But how does this stop me from being impatient? I also look at how independent I am, how assertive I am and what a feminist I am. Is looking for a man going against asserting my stance as a strong woman? I don’t think so and this is my reason behind it.

Many people have said to me, “You don’t need a husband to be happy.” That is 100% true and I could never have said it better. They also say to me “You have alot to accomplish in life.” This is true, but then I look at what I have accomplished already. I am an intelligent young woman who is pursuing every goal I had set out for myself. There are many things I would still like to do in life, like travel the world and experience different cultures, volunteer my time to victims of natural disasters, write a book and learn a foreign language. What stops me from doing this with my husband? Won’t it be more fun that way? What’s so wrong about getting married early and experiencing all those wonderful things with your husband? I want to show my kids pictures of my husband and I on top of Mount Kilimanjaro, pictures of us picking tea leaves in the valleys in India, pictures of us backpacking through Africa. I don’t want to have two separate photo albums one day. I want there to just be one. But I want these moments to be created with the right person, the person who’s going to jump out of that big wooden box and say “Allah has sent me.” The person who will reciprocate my love.

3 comments:

  1. awww...thank you!! It is very strange seeing yourself through someone else's eyes.

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  2. "There are many things I would still like to do in life, like travel the world and experience different cultures, volunteer my time to victims of natural disasters, write a book and learn a foreign language. What stops me from doing this with my husband? Won’t it be more fun that way? What’s so wrong about getting married early and experiencing all those wonderful things with your husband? I want to show my kids pictures of my husband and I on top of Mount Kilimanjaro, pictures of us picking tea leaves in the valleys in India, pictures of us backpacking through Africa. I don’t want to have two separate photo albums one day. I want there to just be one. But I want these moments to be created with the right person, the person who’s going to jump out of that big wooden box and say “Allah has sent me.” The person who will reciprocate my love."

    I so empathise with the above paragraph. I'm glad that I'm living my life, and haven't waited for 'the one for me' to come along before pursuing certain dreams, but I also know it will be so much more rewarding with someone by my side.

    I feel a more acute sense of loneliness when abroad, despite my activity & friend filled life.

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  3. @Mezzaterra - Im glad that you are living your life too!! Many women just sit around and wait for a man to come along to make their life complete. I used to be one of those women, until I found myself. I realised there's so much I enjoy doing with my family and friends, so much that I dont need a man for; like my writing.

    But I also look forward to the moments I spend with my partner one day doing more exciting things.

    Which country are you in? You are lucky that you getting to experience different cultures :)

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